The Time of the Most Night Brings a Soul Full of Light.
Verse by Rudolf Steiner
Behold the Sun
Build with stones
On lifeless ground.
Find in decline,
In death’s night,
Creation’s new beginning,
Morning’s youthful night.
The heights reveal
The gods’ eternal word.
The depths guard
The peaceful treasure.
Living in darkness,
Create a Sun.
Weaving in matter,
Know Spirit’s delight.
Song: Loved The Stars
Though my soul may set in darkness,
It will rise in perfect light.
I have loved the stars too fondly
To be fearful if the night,
fearful of the night.
For more on this special day and other ways to celebrate, visit this fine post by Waldorf in The Home.
Today I read this post by Anna from Mama’s in the Making and it got my blood boiling because I have been in this situation and passionately agree with her points! She clearly states the many positives of letting you little ones take risks; specifically busy toddlers. Boy do I know about busy toddlers as my son is quite the little ‘problem solver’ (that is a nice way of saying ‘complete trouble maker’). In our own house this is fine because we have an environment where he has freedom to play and ‘problem solve’ as much as he wants. It’s when we go to other’s houses or public play areas that the real problem comes.
I was recently in a situation where I was around some overprotective adults who were constantly on his heals for every little slip and fall. I kept quite for a long time until I completely lost it and literally ran in tears. As a mother who takes great pride in my ability to stay calm when my son face plants in the dirt and stands back up laughing, I felt completely belittled. I carefully observe every little move my son makes, evaluating when he needs help, watching him gracefully move in a way most 16 month old children don’t. I see him develope his gross motor skills and sense of physical sense awareness and feel such pride for him. There are many mistakes I have made thus far in my short stint with parenting, but his natural physical development is one thing I have always tried to protect.
In this post Anna says it perfectly: “Risks are part of the game. As soon as babies begin to move around freely they start taking risks. They roll over one side without knowing what will happen when they are on the other side – on their belly. Their head is still heavy and difficult to control, and usually the first rolling over is followed by a bang on the floor or surface underneath. A crucial moment. Do I jump in and support him, place blankets and mattresses everywhere so he won‘t hurt? Or do I let him learn the Art of Falling?” When my son was 4 months old I had to train myself to wait…wait…wait, and then help.There were many hard moments when he would cry when his arm was stuck or he was stuck in a corner. Then came the moments when he would pull up on furniture and fall backwards (onto the pillows I would provide for extra support, so that he COULD fall). Not only does this help with thier motor skills and physical capability, it improves attention span to let them be! Janet Lansbury says: “give babies the opportunity to continue what they are doing, learn more about what interests them, develop longer attention spans and become independent self-learners.”
Our children are going to make mistakes and fall and fail. We can start now by learning to give space and let them find thier own way in life: “Learning to assess risk is learning to judge reality; it is learning what we can and cannot do; it is, above all, learning what to do in a situation when we don’t know what to do. This is a great skill, one that is useful in just about everything we can think of. Knowing how to look at dangerous situations and figuring out what to do to stay safe is definitely something we want our children to learn. Knowing when it is worth making that extra step to the other side might be one of the things that will determine how they fare in life. Essentially, knowing how to take risks means also knowing how to stay safe… most of the time. After all – sometimes risking in life is exactly what allows us to go where we need to go, and maybe find our own path.”
Next time when I am in danger of fighting and running in tears in frustration, I will try to simply say: “I trust my child, please trust me.”
What are your thoughts? I would love to discuss this with Mom’s who have a different perspective.
This Christmas season I have zero intention of stepping anywhere near the malls or shopping centers. This year I will be making toys for the little ones (AND for grown-ups too!). I am still in the idea gathering phase so I thought I would share my top 10 easy handmade toys. They may seem silly or too simple, but if your gift recipient is under the age of 2, they won’t care. In fact, they will most likely play with the box or wrapping paper, so really, we hardy need stress about quality. :) If you enjoy this post, please check out my post More Easy Handmade Waldorf and RIE Toys.
1. Stuff in a Plastic Bottle (Infant)
2. Cut out Felt Shapes and Ribbon (1 1/2 – 3).
3. Large Fuzzy Balls in an Egg Carton (1 1/2 – 3)
4. Felt Balls (Infant and Up) Click Here for Video Demonstration
5. Buckles sewn to a board (1 – 3)
6. Puzzle Picture Glued to Popsicle Sticks (2 – 4)
7. Cloth in Baby wipe container (6 months and Up)
8. Nature Gifts (All Ages depending on size and object)
Please read this great post on the benefits of nature toys.
9. Fabric or Felt Crown (1 1/2 and Up)
10. Old Oatmeal Container with Hole in Lid (6 months – 2 years)
IN Addition to these really easy gifts, here are some ideas I found that I will most likely NOT get to. :)