Supporting the Busy Bee’s of Spring by Changing OUR Actions.

Spring is here! This means more sunshine, new life and busy, busy, busy children! I have seen this every year in my 10 years of working with children yet I am still surprised to see it in my own son. He appears to now made of a bursting ball of light that bounces around all over, doesn’t sleep and goes about the house literally screaming in pure joy! On night I sat down and made a list of all of the things that I can change about myself to support the wild children caught up in the flurry of energy and new life bursting forth in the world. ;)

1. Keep grounded: My temperament easily gets caught up in the season as well; Must be my inner child. This is serious time of year to be keep up with my meditative practice and constantly working on the 3 tricks to keep calm. 

2. Don’t get caught up in the sillies: The children will be full of zest and happiness that can overtake everyone. Let the other children run around acting like maniacs, but keep yourself tamed to a quiet amusement.

3. Less caffeine and sugar:  Yes, this time of year I cut WAY back! From 6 cups of black tea a day I try to keep it to 1 or 2. Caffeine really affects me and combined with the increase in spring energy it will make ME bounce off the walls!

4. No daydreaming: I bet this sounds weird? Well, when we day dream we are not present with our children. It is so easy for me to get lost in spring time day dreams. I will refocus myself to quietly observing the children or reading a grounded book (I’m currently reading The Spiritual Tasks of the Homemaker.)

5. Be understanding, it will pass: Sleep will be affected, eating habits will be affected and temper tantrums may happen more. They may need more support during this time, especially with sleep. Once late-spring comes around they will calm down a bit and everyone will adjust.

6. SLEEP! This one is very important for me because I get so many new ideas this time of year that I will stay up until the wee hours writing blog posts, planning my garden or writing business plans (more on THAT later). :) So I have to rein myself in every single night and make myself wind down even earlier than before; actually I even have my son wind down early now.

Any tips that help you in the spring time? I would LOVE to hear them. Good luck with your spring transition!

Learning Auntiehood, Aka: Learning to Keep My Mouth Shut

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I just returned from visiting my sister and her new family, where I got to lay around while my nephew snuggled and slept on my chest all day. I fell instantly in LOVE with him and with being and aunt! I am really going to love spoiling that adorable child rotten!

I also got a taste for my foot when I put it in mouth a few times. I have quite a bit of information and far too many opinions. I often practice keeping them to myself until asked (or put them on my blog) but with my sister I was too comfortable bombarding her with insights that she didn’t ask for and might not have wanted. Once when I crossed the line I sincerely apologized and was graciously forgiven. On the (quiet, toddler-less) flight home I contemplated my new roll as an aunt.

As an older sister, I often lecture her on what I think the best course is for her life. I have an instinct to protect my little sister and it will come out in ways that may not be helpful, like opinions and information that works for me but not necessarily for her. My sister is very different from me, of course she will mother differently.

I was actually amazed, though not surprised, by my sisters level of calm around her newborn. She IS calmer and more laid back than me as I have to work hard to cultivate that level of zen. She is also braver than me and far more impulsive. She will love her son more than anything in the world as she has a strong heart with deep compassion for those she loves. These are just some of the gifts that she has to offer her son!

So I am actually quite happy that we are now fellow mothers. Her son chose HER and she will learn her own way to be his mother. She will even have an abundance to teach me if I can keep my mouth shut and listen.